SelfMatch Verified Dating · 18+

Date The
Real Me

Meet people nearby, match through mutual interest, and have a video date before you meet in person. SelfMatch Verified checks that a live person took the selfie and that it matches their profile photos.

Download App How It Works
Selfie
Verification
18+
Adults Only
Free
To Download
Happy couple
SelfMatch Verified
Passed the selfie check
New Match!
Your Glance was accepted
Why Choose Date The Real Me

Real People.
Real Connections.

Glances, Waves, chat and video dates, built around SelfMatch Verified: a live selfie check matched to your profile photos, with manual review when needed.

SelfMatch Verified

Members are asked to take a short selfie check. We confirm a live person is taking it and compare it with their profile photos. Members who pass get a verified badge. No ID document is needed.

Verified Members

Explore Nearby

Choose to go live on the Explore map and see people nearby who have done the same. You decide when to check in and when to leave. Other members see an approximate position, never your exact location.

Proximity Discovery

Wave

See someone live near you in Explore? Send a Wave to say hello. If the interest is mutual, you can start a conversation. Everyone can see and reply to their Waves for free.

Respectful Connections

Video Dates

Meet a match face to face in the app before meeting in person. Video dates run 2 or 5 minutes on the Free plan, or up to 15 minutes on Plus and Gold. Both people must be verified.

Video Dating

Glance

Send a Glance, with a personal icebreaker if you like, instead of a mindless swipe. If they accept, you're matched and can chat. Everyone can send up to 20 Glances a day.

Intentional Dating

Chat and Plan Dates

Message your matches, then plan a video date or suggest an in-person meetup right from the conversation.

Matches Only

Privacy by Design

Other members see an approximate distance, never your exact location or phone number. Block or report anyone at any time. We do not sell your personal data.

Your Data, Your Control
Simple Process

Start Dating Authentically
in Four Easy Steps

Sign up, take a quick selfie check, and start meeting people with intent.

1

Create Profile

Sign up and tell us about yourself — your interests, values, and what you're looking for.

2

Get SelfMatch Verified

Take a quick live selfie. It is matched to your profile photos.

3

Get Matched

Browse people who match your Date Filters on the Today tab and send a Glance. When they accept, you're matched.

4

Connect for Real

Chat with your matches, send a Wave to people live nearby in Explore, and have a video date before you meet in person.

Safety First

Your Safety is Our Priority

Date The Real Me is built with safety as a core priority, with multiple layers of security designed to help protect you throughout your dating experience.

SelfMatch Verified

A live selfie check matched to profile photos, with manual review when needed. A verified badge means the member passed that check. It is not a background check and does not guarantee anyone's intentions or safety.

Encryption and Access Controls

We use industry-standard encryption in transit and at rest, plus access controls, to protect your information. We do not record video dates.

Your Data, Handled With Care

We keep verification data only as long as we need it to keep members safe and meet our legal obligations, then destroy it. Our Biometric Data Policy explains what we collect, why, and what happens when you delete your account.

Pricing

Find Your Perfect Plan

Start free, upgrade when you are ready. US prices shown; prices in other countries may differ and are shown in the app before you buy.

Free
Free
The whole core app
$ 0 /month
  • Up to 20 Glances a day
  • See and reply to every Glance and Wave
  • Waves in Explore
  • Chat and plan dates with your matches
  • 2- and 5-minute video dates
Get Started
Membership
Plus
$9.99/month or $59.99/year
$ 9.99 /month
  • 15-minute video dates
  • Everything in Free
Get the App
Membership
Gold
$19.99/month or $119.99/year
$ 19.99 /month
  • 15-minute video dates
  • Passport: browse another city
  • Everything in Free
Get the App

Plus and Gold are auto-renewing subscriptions billed through the Apple App Store or Google Play. They renew automatically unless cancelled at least 24 hours before the end of the current period. Manage or cancel anytime in your Apple ID or Google Play account settings.

Ready to Meet
the Real One?

Take a quick selfie check, send your first Glance, and meet on a video date before you meet in person.

Download the App See Plans

Free plan available. Must be 18 or older to join. Terms apply.